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hubby and me have been talking and talking in circles about the idea of having baby no3 but we just cant seem to decide. personally (at this very moment) i want to try but hes terrified of the idea of having three boys. i'd love that but i'd also love the chance to have a girl i think i'd kick myself forever if we didnt at least give it a go. I've always thought to myself that i would have 3 kids i always liked that number. when i catch him in the mood hes into it as well but i think if we do have another one i'll be pressuring him into it. It'll be a while until we have another one because i want to get into shape before hand to give bubs the best shot since i always have diabeties while pregnant. so im gunna leave it a year at least. but whats everyone elses opinion whens the right time to stop, when do u feel your familys full and whole. at the moment i dont think im there

I feel for you Frankie, my sister-in-law had the same thing...two boys and she really wanted a third but my brother was having none of it (at least your hubby's not said a flat NO). Anyway, he was so adamant that she gave up and has come to terms with it now. I guess I am lucky, I only wanted two and so did my hubby. We both feel that our family is complete...ok we have a girl and a boy but when I got pregnant the second time I really had it in my head that it was a girl and we both felt happy at the thought of two girls ...but then it was a boy. All good either way. Hubbys had the 'op' and we are definitely done. I love babies but am happy cuddling other peoples babies now! Give yourself the year and see how you both feel then.

can I say no wonder he is stressed! Not to sound negative but its a huge decision, that doesnt often come naturally.. if he already doesnt like his job, knows how sick it can make you, all these sorts of things (and am sure there are more!) can really put a strain on a relationship.

Women are fine juggling and thinking about lots of different things at once, but men can't do that the same.. so it can really frustrate them if they are having to think about lots of different things at once...

Before this new job opportunity, and while I was realyl sick, DH was not into thinking about #3, but now he is more happy to do it IF Im healthy and happy enough to do it... he has my wellbeing in his first and foremost thoughts (especially now that his job situation is a lot better, before then it was also about his job and he was tired and stressed and grumpy)

So all the best with your situation :)

LOL Frankie I think I'm the wrong one to be commenting here....this is baby number 8 for me
It is a decision that you both need to agree on and no offence but don't have a baby because you want a girl. Have a baby because you both want another baby :) Hope for a girl but just pray for a healthy baby.
He may be worried about how pregnancy affects your health. I know that was the one thing Mark was really stressing about this time because he knows how sick I get, and how stuffed my back/pelvis already are. I thought it was really sweet that it was his biggest concern. But it is the sort of thing men think of.
Either way.......good luck hon :)

oh my goodness Shadowdance, no 8! You & your hubby must be super parents! I bet your household is lots of fun. I came from a big family and had a great upbringing, no money but lots of fun.